On the 14th day of February, many couples probably ask questions along the lines of “How did I live so long without you?”, “Why did God make you so loveable?” and “Is tonight a good night for us to use the handcuffs?” Many couple will have eaten out at fancy restaurants, bought expensive gifts, or have done something ridiculously mushy because they felt they should have. But the question I tend to ask is, “Shouldn’t the mushy stuff be happening all year round? “Why relegate it all to one measly day in the shortest month of the year? What’s the purpose of a day of love when it’s clear, from everything happening around the world, that love is needed every day of the year?
Granted, I am not one/half of a couple at the moment, so to some, my questions may come across as not so couple-friendly. But hear me out: I’m starting to notice that the usual V-Day trends (though followed by the commercial, “partnered” members of society) are being either neglected or just plain old abandoned. Gone are the days when single people wallow in their so-called loneliness. Instead, you find people reclaiming Valentine’s Day as Singles Appreciation Day. Or, there are some people, like myself, who have dubbed the day “Illusion Day” (My reason for the title: If you weren’t loved by your significant other prior to V-Day, then there is no guarantee that that love will manifest itself after). Also saying goodbye are over-the-top couples looking to invest the money they didn’t spend at Christmas into an evening out or a lavish gift for the one they love. As the world continues to make advances in technology, politics (Go Egypt!), and some forms of media, I ask: Does love ever advance? Is there a sort of progression when it comes to love, whether it be alone, in a pair, or just spiritual? Does love always continue to grow? And if it does, and if it starts to manifest itself every day, will days such as Valentine’s day soon be obsolete?
I am of the firm belief that no one should tell me what I can and cannot do. But then again, I am single and am happy to say that I still have that luxury. However, when holidays as intrusive as Valentine’s Day start making their returns each year, it’s as if someone is screaming “LOVE LOVE LOVE SOMEONE NOW (Big scary voice) OR ELSE!” Yikes! Calm down adverts and calm down over-the-top romantics! No one is doomed if they don’t find love before the 14th of the year. It is not a benchmark or a deadline, nor has it ever been. Well…not since I was 12. Fact is; Valentine’s Day is simply a day and what happens any other day will happen on that day. People will go to work, a mother will argue with her child, a man will fumble for change as he steps onto the bus, and a homeless man will, despite his pride, ask a stranger for money and be refused. Tons of ordinary scenarios will happen and the only think extraordinary will be the behavior of people trying to show one other person what their love is. It’s almost like trademark love. What makes my love different that someone else’s?
The idea that love is shown differently is one that, I feel, is seldom discussed. Love has it’s degrees and varying stages, I guess. In my life, I’ve known protective love, distant love, feauful love, adventurous love, sincere love, and love at its. There are more adjectives that I can put in front of the word, but they would still have the same thing in common; I have experienced a form of love. It may not have been the Disney Version, or even the Shakespeare version, but love was in there somewhere and I can’t disregard it. What’s also interesting to me is that all the different loves I listed came from multitudes of people. Neither adjective was exclusive to one individual. At some point, all of my friends have felt some kind of love for me. For this I am grateful. So why is it that, as people in this world, we go out seeing one type of love? This is a question that I don’t intend to find a direct answer to, but it has always interested me. Is there one love? And if there is one love that we can all successfully find, what exactly are the ingredients that make it up? Lastly, if we end up finding this unique, one of a kind love, what happens next?